Question #19 – 9/9/2007 Being a houseparent NOT able to drive.

I am very interested in a lot of the positions I have found while browsing through the site and on the web. I have tons of experience working with youth, education in adolescent studies and etc. The question I have would be if this is even an avenue I should consider, with a situation I am in. The situation is I do not drive and need to visit the doctor every couple months, do to being a diabetic. As I view each post I notice they require a drivers license and good driving record. Also that most of the facilities are outside of city limits, making it hard if even possible to handle life duties such as doctor visits and etc. So the main question is does anyone know of any facilities within city limits and also if this is a career that one who is unable to drive, should even consider? Thank you so much and have a great day. 

Mike’s Response

I am sure there may be someplace out there, but I can’t honestly think of one place where you wouldn’t need to be able to drive, except maybe as an instructor at a wilderness program.  The children have Dr. Visits, family visits, court appearances, counseling appointments, school functions, etc.  I spend 15-30 hours a week on the road driving to appointments with the children or doing errands like shopping, picking up meds, and running things to schools.  I think if it were me, I would look for something different.

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Question #18 – 9/9/2007 How long should a couple be married?

 How long should a couple be married before they begin a houseparent position together? Thanks.

Mike’s Response

It totally depends on the facility and the couple.  Some facilities require that a couple be married for at least one or two years, others don’t have any set requirements.  In most cases I think you should wait at least a year, and think it wouldn’t be a bad idea to wait two or three years.  Being a houseparent is an extremely stressful position and can test even the best marriages, I can’t even imagine how difficult it would be while trying to get to know the intimacies of your spouse and building a marriage.  Being a houseparent is an opportunity to show your strengths, but it also seems to reveal you faults and weaknesses.

However, unless the facilities sets a time limit, it is a choice you as a couple need to make.  I do know of a couple that were both single houseparents at a facility, fell in love, got married, and started a family all while being houseparents. I have also known of couples that have done it fairly successfully as newlyweds, so it just depends on your situation. 

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Question #17 – 9/9/2007 Can you have a blemish on your record and still be a houseparent??

I have some friends that love what we do for a living as houseparents and they would like to get into this somewhere, but my friends wife was arrested one time for not paying on a check and they wanted to know if this would stop them from being able to become houseparents.
I told them that I think companies will look at there situation??
So I guess my question is can you have a blemish on your record and still be a houseparent??

Mike’s Response

I agree with you and believe, if it even showed up on a background check, that most facilities would consider the circumstances of the situation.  I know somebody that is currently a houseparent and was arrested for the very same thing.  The person paid the fine and it was removed from their record after a about a year.

The background checks that are done by most employers looking for houseparents are for the purpose of finding people that have abused children.  However, employers can use many things to determine if a candidate is appropriate for a position including references, background checks and CREDIT checks.

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