First Aid Kit My kit

Launchpad

We went to the beach this weekend and had a great time. Unfortunately one of our kids were climbing on the breaker rock and cut himself really good on a piece of coral. So I walked back to the bus and got the first aid kit (Standard tin can kit) and started fixing up the boy.

I noticed that while the kit was sufficient for one or two minor mishaps, it still leaves alot to be desired.

I decided to go with a back pack with multiple pockets so I can dived supplies up and find them quickly. The kids helped to put it together also so they have an idea of where some of the stuff is. It is also much more comfortable to carry along, which means I am more apt to grab it and have it with me when I need it. Some items listed are EMT level of care. Although I am certified to use the items, my wife is not. We decided it is still a good idea to carry the items because in a critical situation there may be someone on scene that can use the item. Please feel free to add.

Shears (super heavy duty scissors)
First Aid Guide
CPR Microshield/Face Shield
Pocket Mask/Micro Mask
Penlight
36″ moldable Splint
SAM Finger Splint
Arm Splints, Cardboard
Digital Hypo/Hyperthermia Thermometer
Splinter Forceps
Scalpel #11 Blade (Sterile)
Window Punch (Works great for those bus wrecks you’ll be on)
Adjustable Neck Collar
Space Blanket (Foil)
20cc Irrigation Syringe (Flushing out wounds, eyes) One of those blue baby suction bulb things would work great also.
Bottled Water
PVP Wipes/PVP Swab sticks
Wound Closure Strips card
Tincture of Benzoin
Triple Antibiotic Ointment
Instant Ice Packs
Instant Heat Packs
Moleskin
Latex Exam Gloves
Antimicrobial hand wipes
Alcohol Wipes
Infectious Control bag
Spill Clean-up Kit
Water Gel Burn Dressing
Eye Pad
Normal Saline, 12 oz bottle
4×4’s (Sterile)
4×4’s (Non-sterile)
3×3’s (Sterile)
2×2’s (Sterile)
Bloodstopper-Style Bandage
10 x 30 Multi-Trauma Dressing
8×10 Trauma Pad
5×9 Trauma Pad
Conforming Gauze Bandage (2″)
Conforming Gauze Bandage (3″)
Conforming Gauze Bandage (4″)
Krinkle Gauze Roll 6-ply (Kurlex)
Triangular Bandage
Elastic Bandage with clips (3′)
Adhesive Tape (1″ x 10 yds)
Hypoallergenic Tape (1″)
Strip Bandages
Knuckle Bandages
Fingertip Bandages
Extra-large Bandages
Butterfly Bandages
Cotton Tipped Applicators
Cortisone Cream
Sting Relief Pads
Ammonia Inhalant
Safety Pins
Lightsticks
Whistle w/Lanyard
Flares

Most of this will never be used, but hey, I got it just in case. Total weight when it is all packed is about 10 pounds.

I also carry a cell phone everywhere. Even if you have no service, in some areas if you dial 911 you can get connected in many areas.

Dented Cans

Living in a children’s home we receive donated food items rather often. Many, many times we receive boxes of dented cans from stores. I have known for years that you shouldn’t buy dented cans from the store, now I know why, especially if they contain acidic foods.

We got several cans of tomato soup in our food order a few weeks ago. I went to make lunch one Saturday and was going to serve the soup, all of which came in dented cans. After I opened the cans and poured them in the pan, I noticed that it was a strange color and had a strange smell. I looked inside the cans they came in and noticed that there was rust or some type of corrosion right where the dent was.

What must have happened was when the can got dented it stretched and tore the plastic liner inside the can (all iron based food cans, have a thin plastic liner) which allowed the metal to corrode. I will be much more cautious of dented cans in the future.

Lice?

seriously

This is a first for us, but we’re pretty sure that our biological kids have lice. We haven’t checked the rest of the kids in the house yet because they’re still at school, but we’re expecting that at least some of them will have it too. My husband and I have never dealt with this before (as kids or adults). Does anyone have any tips on getting rid of it in with such a large group of people? There are 14 of us living here right now, and I have no idea where to begin! 

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webmaster

Although we have been lice free for about 3.5 years there was a 1 year period before that when we were having to deal with lice every month. We had one group of children that would come back with lice every time they went home on a visit. So we got pretty good at treating it.

We would use the commercially available lice shampoo to wash their hair. Then I would comb out their hair with a lice comb every day for 10 days and wash it again one final time. We purchased the metal lice combs and reused them over and over again.

My wife would wash all the clothing they took with them on the visit. She would also wash their bedding and their clothes everyday during that 10 day period we were treating them. That was usually enough to do away with the lice.

I found that the most effective part of that for us was combing their hair daily with the lice comb. It seems that you can never get all the eggs out with just one combing and the shampoo doesn’t kill all the eggs. Combing daily removes any newly hatched lice before they have a chance to lay more eggs.

We also have some very hard and fast rules to keep lice from spreading to all the children and staff. My wife has gotten lice, twice from the children since we have been houseparents, I don’t have enough hair.

Rule #1: Everybody has their own comb or brush and nobody shares, ever!!!!

Rule #2: Bedding is washed weekly and nobody shares personal pillows, ever!!!

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momofmany

We had run into the same problem (I think I originally asked that question on the forum a long time ago). We seemed to be unable to get rid of it as we had some kids too young to use the commercial shampoo, and some with extremely thick and long hair. After the third go round, we used Vaseline. We slathered Vaseline over everyone’s head (even those where we could not find nits or live bugs) and then put a shower cap on. We left it on all day and night (Saturday). To wash it out, use peanut butter (oil fights oil). They never came back after that. The morning we spent washing everyone’s hair (it took a couple of washes) we also rewashed all the sheets, sprayed the van, couches, etc. Good luck and don’t give up.

How to get urine odor out of carpet – Need some help on this one

Launchpad

We got a boy that constantly takes a whizz in the corner and closet of his bedroom. We have used all the common rug cleaning products available, but we cannot get the ammonia smell out of his room. Some days it will make your eyes water if the wind is blowing just right.

Anyone have any suggestions as to how to get the odor gone.

We cannot make him live outside in a tent (I already asked) and killing him is not an option (at the moment). 

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webmaster

Try “Urine Gone” it’s one of those seen on TV products. I have had pretty good success with it. You usually can buy it locally in the “Seen on TV” section at Walmart or Walgreen’s.

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Launchpad

Got some today (And the black light). I hope it works. 

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glidenhi

This is cheap and it works like a charm. Pour vinegar on it ….then dab it up with a towel. Smell gone.

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Launchpad

Urine B Gone worked awesome. The little black fluorescent light is uber cool also. Makes you think you got a cool job on CSI and not scrubbing up pee from an eight year old. I recommend this product almost entirely for being able to build your self esteem back up. (But it also does take care of the urine smell). – Thanks Webmaster.

 Had a chance to try the vinegar out. It worked very well and is WAY more cost effective than the Urine B Gone. But it does lack special tools, like black lights or anything that runs on batteries. Way to simple, but very effective.

 Thanks guys, you have made my house smell a little better.

Scabies

momofmany

Anybody got any wonderful ideas on how to treat this? 

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webmaster

Speaking from experience, you go to the doctor and they prescribe a lotion that you rub on every part of your body at bedtime, wake up and take a shower and you are done.

I got scabies several years ago shaking hands with somebody that had it. It was way easier to get rid of than ringworm or lice.

From A Rookie: What Would You Do?

roadie865
We are in our very first turn serving as relief. Five days after coming in, we discovered that one girl, MR 19 yr-old, has had ringworm for 3 weeks already. She left her medicine at home 2 weeks ago on a visit. When she told the houseparents, they said, “Well, what are you going to do about that?”, and they have not purchased more for her yet (they’ve been “treating” it with toothpaste). All this time, she’s been helping set the table, using the phone, computer – and working at a retirement home, serving meals to the residents there. We spoke with the Exec. Director, but nothing more has been done or said.


webmaster
I would first discuss it with the houseparents and see what they say. Stories are often times very different between what they say and what the residents say. Get their side and see if y’all (The staff at your facility) can somehow get the medicine from home or get a replacement from the Dr. It needs to be treated although it is not overly contagious.

It’s always best to first work with the other houseparents before taking other steps. A lot of issue can be resolved there.

Hope this helps.


eagleeyes
Getting the houseparents side before passing judgment will go along way in keeping everyone happy. The youth may very well be telling the truth, yet working together as a team for a solution is the best way to go. Once the supervisor gets involved feelings can get hurt and a bad spirit can come between houseparents.

From experience, we have always had the best results with issues when we and relief houseparents can work things out ourselves, we approach it as we are always learning and we can learn something from every situation we are in or have gotten ourselves in.

The Houseparent Bulge, Am I the only one that has gained weight

webmaster

We just ended another holiday and we have in our pantry, no less than 20 lbs of candy and junk food from very kind supporters. At Christmas time we usually more than double that.

I was 175 pounds when I became a houseparent over 8 years ago, I now weigh over 240. Am I the only one this has happened to, or are there others that struggle with all we are given to eat?

For those that stay healthy, what is your secret???? I have tried to diet and eat healthy, but it seems I can only resist the junk for so long. What do y’all think?


momof10

Ha! This is a long running topic of conversation at all of our trainings and get togethers! We have Sisco(sp?) food and it is processed to the max. It is so sad because a lot of the residents, mostly the girls, come in fit and healthy and leave very overweight. The houseparents struggle with this as well.

We get a ton of candy too but we ration it out to the boys. Since they get 2 snacks a day they have to choose one sweet and one regular one. Sometimes they get mad that they can’t have a huge candy bar (the fund raiser size) twice a day but come on. I am sure some other families do that in homes but not mine! I was cleaning out our closet in our room and found a huge bag of candy that we had put up from last year! Since it was probably outdated in the first place, I would hate to eat it now…

I was on Weight Watchers while I was working and it helped a lot with portion control. I ate everything the boys ate for the most part. Sometimes in a quick fix I would eat a frozen meal which the boys didn’t want anything to do with. The beauty of working in a boys cottage!


prsthelrd
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We have Sisco(sp?) food and it is processed to the max.

I feel your pain, and not only that they send so many starches that you have no options


raider72

I know I have put on about 25-30lbs, sad thing is I have a full weight room in my house and more time than I ever have to use it but I don’t. I think we gain because of the time spent at home and maybe stress factors in?


momof10

Yippeeee! Update: All of the houseparents have complained and the campus nurse took a look at the menu and about died! She said, no wonder why our girls are so overweight in the first few months of living here! So, our commissary is stocking healthier food like chicken and more veggies. Sooooo much better now!


Lady Incredible

It was nice to read that I’m not the only one this job has added a few pounds too.


CaringCouple

I posted a while back that we were leaving the lifestyle and this topic just jumped out at me.

I’ve been out since the last week of March and it is now the 6th of June.

I have lost 48 pounds of Fat while adding at least 20 pounds of muscle.

I’ve dropped 3 shirt sizes and 6 inches from my waist.

I eat more and get that occasional Glass of wine and a beer at lunch every once in a while that I never had in the last 3 years.

I attribute the rapid changes to the lack of stress as well as the quality of diet combined with better sleep patterns.

We buy better food than we could afford to feed the house and can plan meals a nutritionist and the kids would say “heck NO” too like large Salads and a heck of a lot less starch.

We always ate we cooked for the kids and our menus were prepared for us in the last 3 homes and we had to “try” to follow them.

My wife is working as a Case manager at a Correctional Facility for teenage girls and she is not experiencing as rapid a change as I am.

I do have more free time and ride my bike about 150 miles a week no for relaxation that she does not have the time to do.

We do miss the houseful of kids though.

It’s just us and the dawg again!

Decision of a lifetime., Becoming houseparents for the first time

smoothlyranranch

I am 48 and my husband is 53. He has a job as an assistant manager of a grocery store. He also drives a school bus so that we can have insurance. He is also a pastor of a small church and has been so since 1988. I stay at home and am slightly disabled with a nerve disease called Neuropathy. Some days are bad, some are so so and some are THANK YOU, JESUS! We have a daughter who has just graduated from college and one entering her second year of college.

Basically, we are in a rut at present and we like it. But my husband is working so hard and we have about 2 hours a day to spend together, and that’s if he doesn’t fall asleep. At our church, we have spent many years dealing with children and the color and scratches they add to our world. I have also been a Girl Scout leader and homeschooled for 7 years. In other words, we are very use to children and teenagers and feel we are very capable at working with them.

We have been offered a job as houseparents at a youth ranch. This is a ranch where the children cannot live at home for some reason, often no fault of their own. Each cottage can have 10 children, and that includes the houseparents children. It is a brand-new ranch so the kinks aren’t worked out; it will take about a year. The pay is equal to what my husband makes at his assistant manager’s job. As for insurance, which we must have, after 3 months you pay 1/2 of the premiums. After you’ve been there a year, you pay only 10% of the premium…AWESOME. They also have a retirement plan that will match at least up to 5% of your yearly income. My husband would have to keep driving the school bus until our other insurance kicks in. He says he might as well drive it for another year. I don’t know if I could handle the cottage while the kids get ready for school and the 2 hours they come home in the afternoon. That’s scary.

Also, you only get paid once a month. We’re use to getting paid every Saturday. It is on a 265-acre ranch with a pond/lake, horse arena, woodworking shop, automotive shop, gym w/cafeteria, a huge guest lodge and we would be living in a 3-bedroom apartment which is attached to the cottage, which is really not a cottage it is at least 2500 square foot house, complete with a huge pantry and a kitchen that all women would die for. At present we would be responsible for taking the kids to their appointments and basically anywhere they had to go until the ranch can hire people to do that job. We are expected to prepare at least one meal a day for the kids. And they have to attend at least one church service a week. My husband will continue to pastor, so they will probably be attending more than once a week.

You might wonder why we’re having trouble making up our minds. Well, I’m just wondering what folks think about us being so use to not doing a whole lot and being in a rut. How hard would it be to take on this job being a mother and father to up to 10 boys or 10 girls? Remember, our days consist of watching Bonanza while we eat our lunch and then going back to work, then coming home and watching a little more t.v. and then going to bed. Although, we have raised 2 daughters, could we wonderful parents to the kids at the ranch? We’ve talked in length to the houseparents that are presently living in one of the cottages and they had a lot of valuable stories to tell us. But it seems from where we stand, that these houseparenting jobs require a great deal physically and mentally and emotionally. Please, I need any feedback. My husband is 53. It’s not that easy for a 53 year old man to find work, if we were unable to be houseparents. WE have to make up our minds in about another week.


CaringCouple

Because of your stated condition I think you should spend some time visiting and talking with other women that already are house parents. Have you disclosed that to the administration?

No matter what is said about support the only one you can ever truly count on is your husband and vice versa.

You will be up before the crack of dawn and the stress and pressure of your days can be unrelenting as you deal with the needs of children with issues you have not comprehended.

I would be surprised if there is the time in the schedule to allow your husband to still drive the school bus.

It takes 2 people working together in unison to get a house off to school in the morning and to be there for them when they return.

It is far less about being a mother and father than most think. Especially with the youth coming into placement these days.


momof10

It sounds like a great place to be. While I think your desire is great, I am not sure if your husband would be able to do the other jobs. I know that here, there is a staff/child ratio that is 6 kids to one staff member and you would not be keeping that.

What you could do is look into other children’s homes that have less kids. There are a lot of jobs available on the jobs board so take a look to see what is out there.

One thing to consider is whether you would be working with girls or boys. Since I work with boys, my husband is the primary caretaker of them. I just can’t go in their room whenever etc. Same goes for the girls cottages – the women are the primary then. I try never to be one on one with any boy and I know all of the husbands are NEVER alone with the girls. Just too much could happen or be said. Our Children’s Home offers assistants to come help so if you were able to have help in the morning and afternoon that would be great. Only thing is, sometimes assistants could be more of a bother than a help.

Just some food for thought!


samiam1968

Wow, it sounds like a pretty good deal, if you can handle it. My Husband and I have talked about going into this type of a situation after our own children are grown. I work currently at a home for girls, I work 3.5 days on and 3.5 days off. I know while I am at work it is great during the school year but harder during the summer. We have 3 staff on at all times and a group worker during the summer and on weekends. This can be the best job in the world and it can be one of the most challenging. My concern would be what would happen if you discover after 3-4 months it isn’t for you and need to go back to your other life style. Is there any way you could start as relief parents? go in for a weekend to give other parents a break? Just a thought…


RobertSmithe

The situation could possibly work. However I strongly doubt it could be done in addition to two other jobs. If insurance is an issue, there are many places that start with insurance on your first day of employment. If you have only looked at one program, it might not hurt to look at some other programs so that you have something to compare it to.

What would you do about somebody giving your kids condoms?

momof10

Some of the kids on campus went on an Independent Living trip sponsored by the state. Part of the trip consisted of a scavenger hunt to the Health Department (and other agencies.) I am not sure if it was part of the hunt, but some of the boys received condoms. The housemom tried calling the chain of command but since it was Friday, nobody is here. We are funded mostly by the state but a lot is from a denomination which probably believes we are moral and ethical. What would you do as a houseparent? Would you take away the condoms? Would it be a double standard as some of our girls are on birth control (which I disagree in also.) Just wanted to get your take on things. Thanks!


edx0487

I’d take them away. And then repeat the sessions on why abstinence is best… (I’ve not seen this yet so don’t know how good it is, but apparently the facility does run them)

We also try to keep close track of our kids “associations” in order to not provide opportunity to need them!


CaringCouple

Absolutely not.

It would most definitely present a double standard but the youth entrusted to our care are not OURS.

They have a right to the information and options presented them.

You can guide them as well as inform them but your opinion is yours and others have opinions as well.

Speak to their Case workers and Family members and look to what the Family’s views are as well.

Condoms are readily available in schools, youth centers and on.

You are living in the Dark Ages and trying to keep kids there as well if you are trying to keep these kids isolated from these type of issues.


momof10

Oh, just go ahead and make a comfy room for them to go have sex in too while you are at it…

I don’t believe that you are keeping the kids in the “Dark Ages” if you appropriately talk to the kids about sex. Does our younger kids need to be initiated too??? Today while one of our boys were cleaning out the van that they used on this outing, there was a pamphlet about oral sex. Just what I wanted our young boys to find out about. Yes, we talk to them about it. Yes, I know it is out there and they probably know WAY too much but can’t they be boys instead of men? Times are changing but they don’t have to. If you take a stand, it might make a difference. People wonder why our world is going down the tubes, well this is one contribution…

Can ya tell I am passionate about this???


CaringCouple

I never suggested that you do not talk to them or present them with alternatives as well as your viewpoints.

You’re overreacting a bit.

It is good to be passionate but don’t let your passion undermine your work.

Let a kid find out that he has been kept from information or services he is entitled to and you will lose not only his trust but very possibly all the work you have put into him/her up to that point.

I am Catholic and raised 3 daughters and have 2 Granddaughters. My personal beliefs on the subject probably mirror yours.

However there is much to be concerned with in the care of children entrusted to us and there are many times that the rights of the children in our care as well as their families will require you to put your personal beliefs aside.

Let an organization that is presenting options to these kids find out you are isolating them or taking away from them information they already were either commissioned to provide or arranged to provide and you’ll place your program at risk. Especially if you are taking any state or federal money.

If you approach them with a close mind they simply will shut you out when they look to make decisions.

And you certainly want to be able to have their trust to come to you even with difficult decisions that you might not like.

And I think you’re extremely overboard with the idea that our world is going down the tubes because Agencies present Birth Control options to youth.

I worked most recently with Teenage boys from the streets of Los Angeles.

Many would go home to their families and the streets of LA on weekends even though it was against our advice and outside of our programs desired structure. A common occurrence of ganglife is “jumping in” new members and associated female gangs indoctrinating a new girl might make that young lady be gang banged by the boys of their affiliated gang.

Unfortunately we had kids live one life with us and a different life at home.

I would rather they had condoms and the understanding of how to use them properly than to not.

That’s the reality of some of this work.

We can teach the kids and give them choices while they are with us but we have to remain understanding to the reality of the life they often return to.


momof10

I apologize as I should have made myself more clear. We are church run home and I guess I am just disappointed in the stance of our administration on this issue. This is the real issue. Do we take a stand for God or are we going to be lukewarm and blow wherever the “state” wants to take us.


prsthelrd

I think if the rules of the facility allow them to have the condoms then you have to be very careful if you take them away. If the home does not allow them then I would have to say they need to be picked up.

This issue is a major argument between people in the business.

When you have your personal moral beliefs and the rules and guidelines set before you. I believe firmly in abstinence. It is my choice though where I work. I have to make sure I am aware of the policies of the home and then pray and ask God where He would have me.

We can not go somewhere knowing the policy thinking we can change it. If we are unaware of the policy and find out later that it is different than our own beliefs then God has to tell you to stay or go.


momof10

The problem is that there is no policy regarding this and so far, we have not gotten any answer from administration. I suppose that by working for a “Christian” agency, we would uphold God’s desire but hey, I might be wrong! You are right, where you work is a choice and one I might have to make soon but we shall see…

Medical Insurance

sandylegsntoes

Soooooooo, I’m wondering…..

If we get injured on the job, the company pays for the doctor/hospital visits, correct? We don’t pay out of our pockets if we are injured on the job, correct?

If that is the case, then what is the policy when we are exposed to (from the clients) and become infected with diseases, invasive or not? Say, for instance…RINGWORM! Say that a houseparent contacted ringworm from a client several months ago and is still battling outbreaks….some of which now appear on the face. Some of them SCAR. Is this considered a on the job “injury?”

What is your organization’s policy?


wycouple

It is true that if you are injured on the job, it should be covered by Worker’s Compensation. Sicknesses are not usually covered- I’m not sure how Ringworm would be classified.

A few years ago when I was playing football with the kids, I injured my back and it was covered by Worker’s Compensation.

But last year at another organization, several of the girls in our home had the flu and the doctor prescribed all of the girls Tamiflu to help prevent the others from getting it (all the girls were covered by Medicaid). The admin wanted my husband and I to get the medication too so that we wouldn’t get sick- but it would be $60 per person for the prescription. So we didn’t do it- and praise the Lord didn’t get sick.

So I don’t know about the ringworm- but these are just my thoughts


webmaster

You really need to contact the person that administers your workers Comp Policy. The admin at your facility should have that information.

I would imagine that policies on illnesses would be so varied from facility to facility that it would be of little help in your situation.

I can tell you that at the facility I work at and all previous facilities I have worked at, illnesses were my responsibility regardless of how I contracted it. I am thankful that the facility I currently work at provides medical insurance that covers most of our expenses and also a medical savings plan that allows us to pay non-covered expenses with pre-tax dollars.

You will also find that at most facilities personal property is also at risk. I have had several things damaged or stolen in the 9+ years I have been a houseparent and in most cases there was no restitution.

I also found out recently that some facilities are exempt from unemployment insurance. I know of an organization that recently closed a facility and because they were a religious non-profit organization they were not required to pay into the unemployment fund. Their laid off workers had no coverage and were on their own. That is something people should know when they accept a position. You don’t expect the facility you are working for to close, but it can happen. The first facility I ever worked for in about one year went from being in the best financial situation it has ever been to closed because of funding.


putkidsfirst

My place of employment covers EVERYTHING and not one dime ever comes out of your pay check.

Dealing with Ringworm and Teens that won’t Eat

fungus and breakfast Options

LOL, not necesarily together!

1. Anyone experience ringworm in the homes? How does one get rid of it…I read that it can be infective for a year.

2. Teens who will not eat breakfast…what is the policy in your work places?


putkidsfirst
I’ll have to look the ringworm answer up in our medical log if no one has a quicker answer later.

As for breakfast, we have a check in time where our girls must check in to show us they are up and moving or else they lose merits, but we don’t force them to eat and aren’t expected to force them to unless they refuse to eat frequently and it’s a health concern.


sandylegsntoes

Ringworm…thanks. I looked in med logs too as well as phoning my three doc friends. I was hoping that somebody knew a trick to get rid of it quickly…and to get rid of it for good. Washing sheets, towels, etc daily is one way but even at that it keeps coming back. Yes, let me know if you hear or read of a special method.

Breakfast….I was hoping that somebody came up with a great way to get teens to eat it. No, we can’t force them to eat breakfast or lunch at school. My own kids enjoyed the breakfasts I cooked for them do it wasn’t a problem. They believed us when we said breakfast is the most important meal of the day!
One teen I work with will eat it as long as it isn’t traditional breakfast foods. He’ll eat chicken quesadias, sandwiches and stuff like that. At least one of them leaves with brain food.

We have had several kids come with ringworm. It has never been an issue for us. We took them to the doctor and they gave us a prescription for a cream that we put on it every day. I can’t remember any of the children that have had it for more than a month or so that we were using medicine on. Haven’t had a case in a couple of years so I don’t remember the name of the medication.

Breakfast issue. We have never forced any of our children to eat breakfast. At our first home (B-mod) they were required to be present for breakfast when it began but could be immediately dismissed without it affecting their daily score. However, if they didn’t participate in any meal, they were only allowed fruit as a snack until the next meal.

At our current home, (basic foster care/private facility/privately placed) (Our house rule) All of our children are allowed not to like one thing of their choosing. They never have to eat in any form. My son chose green beans, he knows that it is served at least 3 times a week. When green beans are served he can use his pass and not have to eat any vegetables that meal if there isn’t one he likes and still get desert. Mine is venison. We have one boy that hates melted cheese, and that’s his one item. Otherwise, if you don’t participate in a meal you can only have fruit as a snack until the next meal and if you don’t eat a balanced meal that includes vegetables you can’t have desert and can only have fruit as a snack until the next meal.

Meals are a very touchy issue, and states and facilities vary a greatly on how they deal with the issue, because many of the children in our care have been deprived food a lot of places don’t allow many restrictions on any type of meal consequence, so be sure to check with admin before you institute any new food rules.


raider72

As my sons are wrestlers and I have coached youth wrestling for 6+ years I have had my fair share of run ins with ring worm. Ringworm will actually go away by itself untreated, the problem is it spreads very easily by contact. Over the counter medications such as lamisil ultra and the like can work and there are prescription creams for it. For severe cases there is an oral med but it is not recommended. Big thing is to wash bedding and clothes and keep it covered. I could give you some old wrestling tricks but I am afraid it would be considered child abuse

As far as meals, we have to offer it but if they refuse it or don’t come out for meal time that is their choice. We document it and if it becomes common the counseling staff is notified. Haven’t really ever had too much of an issue with it. Usually when they are really angry or upset but my boys like to eat and eat a lot!


momof10

Dunno about ringworms but for breakfast, it is offered – if you don’t take it, so be it. After 8am the kitchen area is closed and all that is offered is fruit. The same goes for all other meals.


sandylegsntoes

Thanks for the chit chat. I agree, when a meal is over and the youth choose not to eat, then only fruit should be offered until the next meal. I’ve seen youths refuse to eat a meal, then half hour later, is munching on bags of chips or cookies.


caring4kids

I had ringworm several years ago. I was told to keep jock itch cream on it. I did that, washed the sheets daily & never got it back!