I have been a houseparent for 9 years and have worked at three different facilities and one thing that is common to all three facilities is how the staff can sometimes bad mouth, gossip about and put down other staff. I know I have done, I’m afraid much too often. However, as I mature I hope I am beginning to recognise the destructiveness of it and will hopefully do it much less often.
I have also come to realize that when I make those statements or have those thoughts that I often times have no clue of what the situation is and my perception is usually wrong. For example:
I have pondered many times why in a field where we are supposed to be helping others, we often times work so hard to tear each other down. Maybe it’s the stress and pressure of dealing with difficult behaviors. Maybe it’s the fact that we usually live so close together, spend so much time together doing the same things that we just get tired of each other. Maybe we are trying to establish some sort of pecking order. I don’t know, but I would love to hear ideas for building up rather than tearing down.
I hope that those I have hurt will forgive me, that I will do much better at building others up and less tearing down, and that we all can find unity as we work to help hurting and troubled children