I have come to a conclusion. After 10 years working in residential childcare I have decided that the behavior that drives me the most crazy is lying. In those 10 years I have worked in both therapeutic behavior modification programs and basic residential foster care and have cared for over 150 children though 7 of the 8 I currently care for have been with me for over three years. I honestly can’t remember a time in any of the programs when there wasn’t at least one child that you were pretty sure was lying because their lips were moving.
I have had children that you could catch with cookie crumbs all over their room and holding the cookie jar tell me that they didn’t steal the cookies, it was johnny in the next room(who is currently gone on a home visit) that took them and ate them in their room. It really makes me wonder if the children I care for lie any more than other children or that because I care for so many children I am just naturally going to be subjected to more lies. I do know that when the children are in a period when they lie more than usual, it becomes physically draining.
I would like to offer some advice on how to deal with things when the children lie more than usual, but I really don’t have any new insights. I guess this is one of those posts where I simply share my feelings. I do know know that like everything else, this too will pass…..