Dented Cans

Living in a children’s home we receive donated food items rather often. Many, many times we receive boxes of dented cans from stores. I have known for years that you shouldn’t buy dented cans from the store, now I know why, especially if they contain acidic foods.

We got several cans of tomato soup in our food order a few weeks ago. I went to make lunch one Saturday and was going to serve the soup, all of which came in dented cans. After I opened the cans and poured them in the pan, I noticed that it was a strange color and had a strange smell. I looked inside the cans they came in and noticed that there was rust or some type of corrosion right where the dent was.

What must have happened was when the can got dented it stretched and tore the plastic liner inside the can (all iron based food cans, have a thin plastic liner) which allowed the metal to corrode. I will be much more cautious of dented cans in the future.

Better Potatoes

Homemade French Fries

With the economy and our financial situation the way it has been, we try everything we can to save a little money. One of those things is using more homemade items including french fries. We enjoy the flavor, but homemade fries always tend to be a little mushy, not crispy like the store bought ones.

Here is a little trick I recently learned to make homemade french fries so much better.

Cook the fries like normal until they are fully cooked and float. Remove them from the grease and let them drain and cool on a pan covered in paper towels. By the time you have cook all your fries the first ones will have cooled completely. Take your cool fries, place them back in the oil and cook them until they are a golden brown. Cooking them the second times makes them crispy and they don’t get the dark brown color that trying to cook them crispy in one frying causes.

They are much better!!!!!

 Make Potatoes Better

Here is a little trick I learned to make good mashed potatoes for a large group.

We don’t really like instant potatoes, but peeling enough potatoes for the entire house is very time consuming and considering how much potatoes cost these days expensive.

You can however peel about 4 or 5 potatoes, cut them up and boil them like you would for normal homemade mashed potatoes. After they are done cooking drain off most of the water into another pan or glass bowl. Mash the potatoes with a potato masher in the water left in the pan. You will end up with a very runny potato slurry. Add instant mashed potatoes until you get the consistency that you want. And walla, homemade tasting mashed potatoes without spending an hour peeling potatoes.

If you make them too thick or need a larger batch, you can use the water you set aside to thin them or use the water plus additional flakes to increase the size of you batch. You can also add some butter and a little milk to make them even more like homemade.

Kids Diet Will only eat deep fried food


I am involved in the mother of all power struggles right now. I have a boy that REFUSES to eat anything that does not get deep fried or has sugar loaded into it. He has more or less sustained himself on whatever he can sneak when we are not looking.

Any suggestions?

He is six years old and obviously overweight. This kid will have a heart attack by the time he is twelve if we can’t break his poor eating habits. 



We had a kid that sounded similar to yours. I took him to the Dr. and told the Dr. that all he wanted was sugar. The Dr. chewed me out and said that the only reason he eats sugar is cause you give it to him. I told the Dr. that he would not eat anything else. She told me to take away the junk food and he would eat when he got hungry. I talked it over with administration and we decided to give it a try. It took a few days but he finally started eating regular food.



We deal with this with many of the children we work with and some of the things we do is. Lock the pantry. If it is OK with your administration, lock the pantry, or at the very least, take everything junky out and lock it up. This way the kids won’t sneak the junk food when you are sleeping, or in the other room dealing with another child. In doing so we don’t limit what the children eat. There is always fruit and vegetable sticks available.

We also have a rule that you must eat a protein and a vegetable with each meal, and we don’t count any type of white potato as a veggie. So French Fries don’t count. Sweet potatoes do count. If you don’t eat a protein and a veggie you can’t have seconds, desert, or anything sweet to drink (i.e. Koolaid, sweet tea, etc.)

We also have a rule that you get one thing that you don’t have to like. My daughter hates fish and has since birth. She is not required to eat fish when it is served and is still able to get desert, seconds etc. Knowing that we live in a children’s home and green beans are served at least 4 times a week, my son picked them. The children seem much more open to eating better foods when they have some say.

Finally we have free days. Those include cook-outs and holidays. They seem to accept the other eating rules when they get a chance to binge.

We have the best eaters on campus, and our new kids that were not eating veggies when they were in other cottages are now eating balanced meals without issues.



I really like the idea of letting the kid choose one thing they don’t like and not having to eat it. We have also started telling him he has to eat one vegetable or fruit with every meal, otherwise he can go hungry until the next meal, at witch time he has to eat a vegetable or fruit. So far he chose not to eat today. A little fasting is good for everyone and I figure even the most stubborn kid won’t go longer than three days.

Thanks for the advice; it definitely helps to get some second, third and fourth opinions.

More Food Service

We have a food service at our facility that prepares many of our meals. They are an outsourced food services management company and it just seems to me that our meals are very institutional. I would very much prefer purchasing my own groceries and doing my own cooking.

Does anybody else have food service and if you do what do you think of them? For those that don’t have it, what are your thoughts? Would you like it or not?
We have an on campus grocery store and we enjoy that, but next year we are going to an ordering system. I’m not sure which I prefer as I spent my first 12 years as a HP with an ordering system. Here, we will still have the option of ordering the food cooked or uncooked. That seems ok, but to me it’s all going to depend on that variety. With an ordering system, if there’s not a lot of variety you’re going to have that “institutional” feeling.

At my first HP job we had a central kitchen that made all meals. I certainly didn’t like that because you got what they made and could request no variety at all. More times than not the kids hated what was made no matter how hard you tried to teach them to appreciate it. I know I hope I never see that where I currently work. VARIETY is the name of the game in regard to working with kids and meal preparation.

We have to cook all meals by ourselves. We get some of our basic groceries from the commissary here on campus (meat and fresh fruit is not too good) and have a budget of $75 per month per child for groceries bought elsewhere. We have 11 kids, it gets hard sometimes. There is almost always someone who does not like something. Our kids range in age from 1 to 14, so factor that in. Things I never would have done before working as an HP (buying frozen lasagna instead of making it from scratch) I do quite often. Between 4H, sports, appointments, school, church, scouts, and then just being tired, it is hard to cook every meal. We get two days off a month, so we cook every day. We are trying to show a family model, so that is what we do. I get to plan my own menus, which I like. We have found that is the best time to get one on one time with a single child. One adult and one child prepare the meal for everyone else. We try and teach the older ones basic kitchen things, and just listen to what they want to talk about. The younger ones can help in some ways, and it is a way to just have quality time with them.
Since my husband and I alternate, our way works well for us. But there are days I could never cook again – especially like this past holiday break. We have to serve three meals and two snacks per day. I do try to do the Cook it once, serve it twice way – but that don’t always work.

My wife and I often wished we had had more control over what the kids ate. We did the cooking in our separate homes, but most of the food was donated so we didn’t get to select it. Several of the kids that were on behavior altering drugs probably could have done without them if we had been able to avoid certain food additives and dies.

Our youngest son was diagnosed ADHD. We put him on the fiengold diet and within three days we noted a marked difference. His grades went from C’s and D’s… A’s….and the school teachers couldn’t believe the difference in his social skills. After about a week…he told my wife…..”mama…..I didn’t realize how much I hurt.”

My husband and I are responsible for preparing dinner every night. During the school day, breakfast and lunch is provided by the school. Lunch is also served on Sunday after church. There are funds for an occasional pizza night or going out night. Sometimes restaurants are generous and donate meals. (Rarely though) I prefer cooking over prepared meals. There is room for variety.

At our facility, there is a set menu that consists of mostly frozen, prepared meals. (Lucky for me, my husband happens to be the person in charge of setting the menu!) There really aren’t too many options to put on the menu though. To add a little variety (and food with flavor and fresh ingredients), we just got an alternative option for Saturdays approved. Every Saturday, one girl gets to be in charge of making up dinner. The girls are really excited about this. Most of the girls have some old family recipes that they want to show off. (This coming Saturday we will be having lasagna pizza.) For the girls that don’t know any recipes, they are excited about using cook books and online recipes. Usually our food is pretty mundane, but hopefully this new idea will help to spice things up a little bit.

We’ve got a budget of $525/mo for our cottage of up to 8 kids plus the H/Ps. This is for consumables only. We have a commissary that supplies a lot of canned goods, hamburger, eggs, etc. plus an additional budget for “household items” such as toiletries, cleaners and paper goods. We cook all of our cottage meals ourselves and then turn in a menu history sheet every month for licensing purposes. I’m very blessed to have a wife that loves to cook and is GREAT at it!

We just moved to a new facility- Here they a cafeteria during the school day for breakfast and lunch. We prepare meals at night and on weekends.
We get a budget for food about $1000 a month. My wife does the shopping while I push the cart, otherwise it would be porter house steaks and grape soda every night.

Favorite, easy meals?

What are your favorite meals to serve as a houseparent? Do you follow a menu? What do the kids eat good? Do they have to at least try a little bit of everything offered?

We noticed that if you try to offer more healthy foods such as fresh fruit, the kids will eat them. Of course, some seem to never want healthy foods.

Good healthy snacks for us are bananas, grapes, apples & sometimes oranges (oranges take more work). Fruit cups are good too.

Good meals are things like spaghetti & meatballs, hamburgers, some casseroles, etc…..

Our boys are expected to eat everything on their plate. My wife moderates how much each kid gets, however, based on their likes and dislikes. If we try something brand new for dinner, she asks them all to try it without comment – until the end of the meal. Then she notes who likes it and didn’t like for the next time it’s served.

We are blessed! Our boys will eat ANYTHING!

Our rules depend on the age of our children. With our little kids (those we prepare the plates for) they have to eat their meat/protein and vegetables (I always offer at least two different ones). They are not required to eat the starch (potatoes, bread, pasta, etc.) If we prepare something new, they have to at least try it (without covering it in a cup of ranch dressing or ketchup). If they don’t eat at least a protein and veggie, they don’t get dessert or a sugared drink with the meal. Water Only!

Our older kids that make their own plates are required to eat everything on their plate and are required to have at least one serving of Meat/Protein and one serving of veggies. Again starches are optional but if they put them on their plate they have to eat them. Again if they don’t eat veggies they don’t get dessert or drinks. And that includes our really big kids. We got a 17 Year old last summer that never ate veggies before, now he is.

We also have a rule that everybody has one thing they are allowed to not like and never have to eat it. It varies greatly with each kid. The list includes: 7 Year Old (YO) Girl-Lasagna, 15 YO Girl – Fish, 14 YO Boy – Eggs, 18 YO boy – eggs, 18 YO Boy – Green Beans, 12 YO Girl – Ham, my wife-Red Beans & Rice. I don’t have one because I eat a low card and prepare most of my own food, and I am not going to cook something I don’t like. If their food is served, they don’t have to eat it, yet can still get dessert and drink. They are allowed to change their food once a month (though they rarely do), but can’t change it at a meal to something that is being served that meal. This has worked very well for us.

I have found that if you get kids used to eating healthy, they will. The big thing is getting them to try new stuff.

We have a menu my wife plans out for the week. Each kid has a cook night and they are responsible for helping to prep and cook. We also have a “Yuck” list and each kid has three things on it they do not have to eat.

All in all we eat pretty good until it’s my turn to cook. I am known for my Hot pockets and beanie weenies. 

I love the “Yuck List” label, I might have to start using it. Sounds a lot better than “Your chosen food that you are allowed to dislike.”

We like the “Yuck list” too. We know of a place that has a “poison food” that the kids can choose not to eat. I think it is a good idea to do it for a month at a time- sometimes a child may not know what they really like & don’t like but as foods are served & they have to try them, they may find a food they like even less than the one that they had on the list.

Menus are good but how many real families actually follow a menu? Although it is good when you shop to know what you need but in today’s economy, you sometimes end up serving other things than what may have been on the menu such as times when things get donated that need to be used up.

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The children eat the meal that is served …or peanut butter and jelly sandwich….. .but if they can only have the sandwich for one meal either lunch or dinner unless there was a dieticians note that states child is allergic to what was served at both meals….(this was residential care ….but i think its good for group homes too -unless agency has other guidelines…

I know if I’m cooking only one meal for 7 kids or more will be served…lol

We found that it doesn’t matter so much what you serve them……if you give them ranch dressing to put on it, they love it….LOL!!!

or hot sauce!  Some of our girls will put hot sauce on just about anything!

Do any of you have food service?

We have food service that provides meals during the week and also on some Sundays. All our groceries come from food service.

I get tired of eating the same things over and over again and prefer preparing my own meals. Also the children never have an opportunity to see where food comes from in the real world because we never do shopping. We fill out a list and it is delivered to our cottage or we eat in the dining hall.

On the other hand on days that I am responsible for all the cooking, (my wife doesn’t cook, though she is a good baker) it seems like I am in the kitchen all day, so I miss having more time for other things.

Do any of you have food service and if so, what do you think of it? Is it a good thing or a bad thing and Why?

I am not looking for gripes about the food, but more like what affects it has on cottage life, and the children. 

Our food service consist of a pantry set-up that is stocked from the food bank. We also get a very sizable allowance to grocery shop. All food is prepared by house parents in the residence here. It gives us a lot of freedom with variety but it does take a large amount of time. We get the kids involved and it helps but there are days it gets a little old.

The wife and I do go once a month to another facility (Mom and Dad) during our off time that has a cafeteria for the staff and residents. Food seems decent to me but they are tired of the repetition. Nice place but a little to close to my days of eating Army chow in a mess hall. 

I also really like sitting down as a family every night to pray eat and talk. It really is the cornerstone of our day in the house where we all connect. At the other place or houses that I have been to that serve buffet style, it seems that personal touch of sitting around the table, passing food and sharing the moment is missing. (No offense to the buffet believers out there, it just aint me  ) It has been a battle to get our house to the point we can do this. All in all I really like how our facility runs it.

The first children’s home we worked in all of our meals were prepared in a dining hall and the food was nutritionally good but everything after a while seemed to taste the same. Right now where we work all meals are served family style and my wife does all of the cooking. She is an awesome cook and the girls are always asking for recipe cards of their favorite meals that she cooks. It is also great that we eat family style since so many kids have never gotten to experience this and it is some of the best conversation time and good humor time we have in a day. 

I would like to ask those of you that serve family style:

1) How many children do you have in your house?

2) What are the age groups?

We have 11 total children that range in age from 2.5 yrs to 15 yrs. 5 of them are 6 and younger. We all sit and eat together including the conversation even though we have to sit at two tables because our dining room would not be big enough for one table that will sit 13 people, but we serve buffet style. With the plates my wife and I fix for the little children plus ours, we each have to fix 3 or 4 plates. Family style just doesn’t work for us and I would like to see how our situation compares to those that do serve family style. 

We have six boys ranging from 12 years to 15, plus My wife and I. We all fit at the table but when we have guests it gets a little tight. I guess if we had any more kids in the house we would have to do it the way you guys do. Especially for the tots!!!

We serve family style and we have up to 8 girls middle school age with my wife and I and one other staff that eats most meals with us, so we can have up to 11 people at a meal at any given time. Our dining room is big and we use 3 tables end to end so it is big and even has room for a couple more if we need to squeeze them in. Once in awhile my wife sets a meal up buffet style like if we have tacos or something like that where it just doesn’t make sense to pass things around the table.

Budget ???

We have been trying to get creative with our food budget. We get $750. per month for 13 people. That includes food and cleaning supplies.

It’s becoming very difficult to stay in the budget. Actually it is insane.

Any ideas short of scraping raccoons off the side of road to help cut costs?

I have been pondering this and I can’t even imagine a household budget of $750 a month for 13 people. The price of produce is out of this world because of all the droughts around the country. Staple items are up because of fuel and shipping charges. The price of meat, is a whole other story. I spend almost $200 for my family of four to eat for a week on relief.

I was going to suggest planting a garden, but the cost of water and fertilizer makes that unfeasible.

I think if food costs are really an issue, maybe your facility would consider starting a pantry and taking food donations, you could supplement that with your monthly budget. A good percentage of our food is donated.

Also, try your local food bank for food at reduced cost. We have a local sportsman’s group that donates venison every year. We pay for the processing and then mix it with our hamburger throughout the year. It really stretches the meat budget.

Are you kidding me you get 750 a month. We only get $21 a person per month and a budget of $25 dollars a month in our own grocery room. for 13 people thats almost $600. With fewer kids it seems to me to get harder because of not being able to buy in bulk.

I don’t know where you are located, but if you are anywhere in the area of a decent sized city there has to be a food bank around somewhere. We just started our home 6 months ago and only have 2 kids right now, so there are 4 of us total. We get about $500 a month for food with just the 4 of us, but we also get food from a food bank at VERY reduced cost. This place is great and allows our budget to work in a way that we can take our boys out to eat about once a week, but in your case it would just make your budget work. Start talking to your director and do some research to find some local food banks in your area. They will probably require some kind of food managers training and may do their own training, but it is worth sitting through a couple of classes to get it! Good Luck!

Wow it has been a long time since I have been able to be on here, we have been houseparents now for a year it has gone by so fast and so slow. About how we make it with our food budget. We have so far had to spend some of our own money on food it seems like every month. The real problem is that we have teenage girls and one eight year old that eats like a horse. So our in town food budget every month is now up to almost 100 dollars. I did forget to mention that we get a dairy budget of $40 and that helps a lot except that only buys 10 gallons of milk a month and that is without any cheese and my girls all love cheese. We live in a part of the country were Mexican food in a main staple item and everything has cheese in it. We had a problem with the girls getting into the pantry at night and early in the mornings and helping themselves, our cottage was the only one on campus without a lock on the pantry. I have since remedied that with a self installed lock after having to go through the chain of command.

ps On a totally separate note if you read this launch I have been reading your blog and I must say my wife says you must be my long lost brother because of all the similarities. Well hopefully I can write more often. I am now up late at night a lot and my 4 month old baby is starting to sleep longer in the mornings.

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Seriously though, this is one area that I think facilities tend to overlook. Whoever makes the food budgets up just doesn’t know what’s going on. They act like houseparents, saying more is needed, are wanting to have lobster and prime rib every week. At our last place, you had to use a lot processed food (from the commissary and the food bank to meet the budget. We were able to do it, but it was tough.

But using a lot of processed food is very bad in my opinion. (I have a very compelling story about my bought with cancer and what I had to do when chemo didn’t work, but that is a very long story for another thread. 7 years Alive and Well, Praise God!) Anyway, through that experience, I learned a lot about nutrition and processed food. I believe that a lot of the ADD and ADHD and all the other “disorders” could be remedied or greatly diminished simply by getting these kids off all the processed food and sugar. (like all the cereals they like that I like to refer to as sugar-coated sugar.) Don’t get me wrong, I like chocolate and ice cream and the like and have no problem with kids having those things in moderation, but do yourself a favor and start reading ingredients on processed food. You will be amazed at all the sugar, corn syrup, and the other covert names for those which companies have come up with to fool the public.

Another issue we had to deal with in a house with 8 teen boys (and six of them being 225 lb+) was milk. A cottage was closed down and 4 of our 8 boys came from that cottage. They were accustomed to drinking as much milk as their heart desired. No kidding here, they were going through a gallon of milk a day EACH! We had to put a stop to that real quick. Of course that made us the devil their eyes because their previous staff didn’t limit their milk consumption. We would let them have a large glass at breakfast (unless they had cereal on which they got the equivalent of a glass), and a large glass with dinner. After that, if they were still thirsty, they could have juice or water.

This is definitely a difficult aspect of houseparenting (are there any easy aspects to it?), but one that is very important.

I know that I am not a houseparent yet, but I have been referred to as the “budget queen”. I have had to feed a LARGE family on a very low budget (less per person than you are talking about.)

Does your city, or a city near you offer food angel? Their “regular box” comes with enough food to feed a family of 4 for a week (minus dairy), and it costs $30. It comes with a variety of foods, and changes every month. A month’s supply of food through them (minus dairy) would be under $500, and the rest of your budget could go to dairy, fresh foods, or treats. It’s a thought, anyway. I hope that this helps at least a little. You could also look into co-op buying with other houseparents. You can normally get healthier foods this way, too. If you live near an agricultural area, you could put the request out to farmers. Maybe they could cut you a good deal on produce (especially if you guys are willing to go out on a Saturday to pick the apples, etc). Just a thought. I hope it helps.

It’s worth looking into even if you just use it to supplement your current groceries.

Yes one idea would be having a garden to grow vegetables and also planting fruit trees. Could do organic gardening that would be the most healthy. I have started a cross garden but, did not get much yield on the first attempt. Basically its boards in the ground in the shape of a cross with the soil dug up about the depth of the shovel. If you could plant oranges this would help a lot when it comes around to allergy season and the times when there are a lot of upper respiratory problems. If reasonable. I have a doctorate degree in chiropractic and we covered a lot of nutrition in my degree program. It’s really a challenge to eat healthy and feed the kids healthy in houseparenting. You can find info on organic gardening online and also this is a good group activity each kid can be assigned a portion of the garden to take care of if this is allowed at your place of work. This can also be relaxing

The Houseparent Bulge, Am I the only one that has gained weight


We just ended another holiday and we have in our pantry, no less than 20 lbs of candy and junk food from very kind supporters. At Christmas time we usually more than double that.

I was 175 pounds when I became a houseparent over 8 years ago, I now weigh over 240. Am I the only one this has happened to, or are there others that struggle with all we are given to eat?

For those that stay healthy, what is your secret???? I have tried to diet and eat healthy, but it seems I can only resist the junk for so long. What do y’all think?


Ha! This is a long running topic of conversation at all of our trainings and get togethers! We have Sisco(sp?) food and it is processed to the max. It is so sad because a lot of the residents, mostly the girls, come in fit and healthy and leave very overweight. The houseparents struggle with this as well.

We get a ton of candy too but we ration it out to the boys. Since they get 2 snacks a day they have to choose one sweet and one regular one. Sometimes they get mad that they can’t have a huge candy bar (the fund raiser size) twice a day but come on. I am sure some other families do that in homes but not mine! I was cleaning out our closet in our room and found a huge bag of candy that we had put up from last year! Since it was probably outdated in the first place, I would hate to eat it now…

I was on Weight Watchers while I was working and it helped a lot with portion control. I ate everything the boys ate for the most part. Sometimes in a quick fix I would eat a frozen meal which the boys didn’t want anything to do with. The beauty of working in a boys cottage!

We have Sisco(sp?) food and it is processed to the max.

I feel your pain, and not only that they send so many starches that you have no options


I know I have put on about 25-30lbs, sad thing is I have a full weight room in my house and more time than I ever have to use it but I don’t. I think we gain because of the time spent at home and maybe stress factors in?


Yippeeee! Update: All of the houseparents have complained and the campus nurse took a look at the menu and about died! She said, no wonder why our girls are so overweight in the first few months of living here! So, our commissary is stocking healthier food like chicken and more veggies. Sooooo much better now!

Lady Incredible

It was nice to read that I’m not the only one this job has added a few pounds too.


I posted a while back that we were leaving the lifestyle and this topic just jumped out at me.

I’ve been out since the last week of March and it is now the 6th of June.

I have lost 48 pounds of Fat while adding at least 20 pounds of muscle.

I’ve dropped 3 shirt sizes and 6 inches from my waist.

I eat more and get that occasional Glass of wine and a beer at lunch every once in a while that I never had in the last 3 years.

I attribute the rapid changes to the lack of stress as well as the quality of diet combined with better sleep patterns.

We buy better food than we could afford to feed the house and can plan meals a nutritionist and the kids would say “heck NO” too like large Salads and a heck of a lot less starch.

We always ate we cooked for the kids and our menus were prepared for us in the last 3 homes and we had to “try” to follow them.

My wife is working as a Case manager at a Correctional Facility for teenage girls and she is not experiencing as rapid a change as I am.

I do have more free time and ride my bike about 150 miles a week no for relaxation that she does not have the time to do.

We do miss the houseful of kids though.

It’s just us and the dawg again!

Dealing with Ringworm and Teens that won’t Eat

fungus and breakfast Options

LOL, not necesarily together!

1. Anyone experience ringworm in the homes? How does one get rid of it…I read that it can be infective for a year.

2. Teens who will not eat breakfast…what is the policy in your work places?

I’ll have to look the ringworm answer up in our medical log if no one has a quicker answer later.

As for breakfast, we have a check in time where our girls must check in to show us they are up and moving or else they lose merits, but we don’t force them to eat and aren’t expected to force them to unless they refuse to eat frequently and it’s a health concern.


Ringworm…thanks. I looked in med logs too as well as phoning my three doc friends. I was hoping that somebody knew a trick to get rid of it quickly…and to get rid of it for good. Washing sheets, towels, etc daily is one way but even at that it keeps coming back. Yes, let me know if you hear or read of a special method.

Breakfast….I was hoping that somebody came up with a great way to get teens to eat it. No, we can’t force them to eat breakfast or lunch at school. My own kids enjoyed the breakfasts I cooked for them do it wasn’t a problem. They believed us when we said breakfast is the most important meal of the day!
One teen I work with will eat it as long as it isn’t traditional breakfast foods. He’ll eat chicken quesadias, sandwiches and stuff like that. At least one of them leaves with brain food.

We have had several kids come with ringworm. It has never been an issue for us. We took them to the doctor and they gave us a prescription for a cream that we put on it every day. I can’t remember any of the children that have had it for more than a month or so that we were using medicine on. Haven’t had a case in a couple of years so I don’t remember the name of the medication.

Breakfast issue. We have never forced any of our children to eat breakfast. At our first home (B-mod) they were required to be present for breakfast when it began but could be immediately dismissed without it affecting their daily score. However, if they didn’t participate in any meal, they were only allowed fruit as a snack until the next meal.

At our current home, (basic foster care/private facility/privately placed) (Our house rule) All of our children are allowed not to like one thing of their choosing. They never have to eat in any form. My son chose green beans, he knows that it is served at least 3 times a week. When green beans are served he can use his pass and not have to eat any vegetables that meal if there isn’t one he likes and still get desert. Mine is venison. We have one boy that hates melted cheese, and that’s his one item. Otherwise, if you don’t participate in a meal you can only have fruit as a snack until the next meal and if you don’t eat a balanced meal that includes vegetables you can’t have desert and can only have fruit as a snack until the next meal.

Meals are a very touchy issue, and states and facilities vary a greatly on how they deal with the issue, because many of the children in our care have been deprived food a lot of places don’t allow many restrictions on any type of meal consequence, so be sure to check with admin before you institute any new food rules.


As my sons are wrestlers and I have coached youth wrestling for 6+ years I have had my fair share of run ins with ring worm. Ringworm will actually go away by itself untreated, the problem is it spreads very easily by contact. Over the counter medications such as lamisil ultra and the like can work and there are prescription creams for it. For severe cases there is an oral med but it is not recommended. Big thing is to wash bedding and clothes and keep it covered. I could give you some old wrestling tricks but I am afraid it would be considered child abuse

As far as meals, we have to offer it but if they refuse it or don’t come out for meal time that is their choice. We document it and if it becomes common the counseling staff is notified. Haven’t really ever had too much of an issue with it. Usually when they are really angry or upset but my boys like to eat and eat a lot!


Dunno about ringworms but for breakfast, it is offered – if you don’t take it, so be it. After 8am the kitchen area is closed and all that is offered is fruit. The same goes for all other meals.


Thanks for the chit chat. I agree, when a meal is over and the youth choose not to eat, then only fruit should be offered until the next meal. I’ve seen youths refuse to eat a meal, then half hour later, is munching on bags of chips or cookies.


I had ringworm several years ago. I was told to keep jock itch cream on it. I did that, washed the sheets daily & never got it back!